I'm Not Like Them (Female Body Image)

January 30, 2014

Finding the words to write this took a lot of rediscovering myself. Where my heart and mind felt right, felt comfortable and felt honest with myself and relatable to other people.

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Finding the words to write this took a lot of rediscovering myself. Where my heart and mind felt right, felt comfortable and felt honest with myself and relatable to other people. Body Image has always been a problem in society and their idea of perfection. What a real man or woman should be. We are constantly measured by how we look or how we “should” look. Being constantly bullied for being too thick, too fat, too skinny, too muscular, too hot, too ugly, whether we do our make up right or have our hair a certain way… I look in the mirror and I see a woman who has been almost all this things and will never be perfect. But I’m finally at the point where being perfectly flawed is where I am beautiful.

This isn’t my only struggle with society. I need to share this story.. I have many of them. When I was in my early months of 18. A friend of mine and I were walking home late in the evening. A van slows and tries to get us in the van. The things they were saying to us were crude, demeaning, vulgar. To make things worse… the van’s side door opened revealing more guys. I thought for sure they were going to drag us into the van. For some reason they ended up speeding off. We were untouched, luckily. But that was the first time in my life where I fully felt like an object. It wasn’t until later that year that a horrible situation made me believe that that’s all that I was and all I felt I was good for. I’ve come to realize that in society our bodies become objects of sex. It’s everywhere! We as women, even men, lose our existence as being human. We become what we have and lose what we are. As the years pass I’ve noticed that it’s getting harder to even be on a social networking site without being harassed by men (and I know it goes both ways, guys). I can’t tell you how many messages I’ve gotten where I get asked to come hang out with guys I’ve never met.. and If I politely refused.. I am accused of being fake, being fat and ugly.. being a tease. I’m told I shouldn’t post seductive pictures of myself. I’m sorry but the picture that was “seductive” just showed my face.. and I had a certain “seductive” look on my face. Big deal!! I’m not asking for anything. Yesterday a man had messaged me. There was no “hello, how are you?” I shouldn’t have even opened it. Just a photo revealing himself and it saying “for you.” Before I could even block him.. I received more pornographic photos and him telling me “this could be you” “you need it” I reported and blocked him. I can’t understand how this has become okay. Finding the words to write this took a lot of rediscovering myself. Where my heart and mind felt right, felt comfortable and felt honest with myself and relatable to other people. Body Image has always been a problem in society and their idea of perfection. What a real man or woman should be. We are constantly measured by how we look or how we “should” look. Being constantly bullied for being too thick, too fat, too skinny, too muscular, too hot, too ugly, whether we do our make up right or have our hair a certain way… I look in the mirror and I see a woman who has been almost all this things and will never be perfect. But I’m finally at the point where being perfectly flawed is where I am beautiful.

This has become my fuel! To want to speak out about how we are more than this. We are better than being just an object. There really is nothing wrong with celebrating the human body and showing how beautiful it is. It’s the way it’s done now a days. Isn’t at all empowering to any of us. It took a lot of heartache and understanding to realize this. We are beyond beautiful just as we are and shouldn’t let anyone tear us down because we become uncomfortable or don’t feel we fit in. This is where we should empower one another and ourselves!! We aren’t an object…We are human! We have a heart, mind and we are a soul that is worthy of praise and love. Embrace yourselves. Love yourselves. Your body is your own.. treasure it.

Nicole

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